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Daddy’s Not Home

 

From the very beginning of becoming parents, both my husband and I decided that we need to invest the appropriate amount of time on our children. This would be the pinnacle of their childhood memories. We decided that money and things were not important and they were not essential for our family. But spending time together and showing our kids the value of that was going to be the foundation of our family. With time, we have seen this really transform as we have more responsibilities, and time seems to be fleeting.

My husband beginning his own company 2 years ago was a great blessing for our family. The downside to having your own business is investing much of your personal time to creating the business you want. It’s not your 9-5 that you check in and out of whenever you like. It has really been a 24/7 effort. As Mark’s business grows, we have seen our free time diminish. Although, we are thrilled to have the business, it seems like we allow the time to slip away and our kids grow like sprouts each day.
This morning my husband expressed some guilt about not spending enough time with the kids, especially Jonah. It’s such a double edged sword, on one hand, I have been blessed with the ability to stay home with the kids and from the other we have lost a little piece of our dad. I am sure that many families face this same issues, as they send off their daddy’s every morning to provide and care for our families.
First, as Wives and Mamas, we must be grateful for men that truly strive to provide for our families. Men who are not lazy. They do what they need to, sacrificially and are not self seeking. When I see my husband leaving at 5:30am and come home at 8pm, my heart is filled with so much gratefulness to God for giving Mark strength, wisdom and courage each day.

Second, throughout our day at home, I am reminding our children of dad, who they may not see very much, but is a quintessential part of our living. Whether it is the food that we eat, the gas and car we drive in, or the water filling our bath, I remind them that none of this would be possible without our dad. Each minute dad is away from us, he is providing all the necessities of life by Gods Abounding Grace. Dad has not abandoned us in anyway, that his love shows through his actions.

Third, we try to be intentional with our time. When  Mark does get home earlier, we have a no phone zone until the kids go to sleep.  It’s really easy for him to go directly to his computer and answer pressing work issues, it’s important to keep in mind that an hour will not do him any harm. Saturday and Sunday mornings,Mark takes Jonah on a bike ride or to the park or just for breakfast together. This is definitely the highlight of the weekend. As a wife, we must be reminding our husbands to  be intentional with their time.

Life is crazy, and never the way you expect it to be.  God has given us children for a limited amount of time to lead them and guide them. It is about the moments that we use to fulfill that purpose.  As parents, prioritizing family while balancing life. As a wife-mother, supporting your husband through all the hard decisions that we face. There is no Demanding, nagging or guilt, but giving thanks for the day which is provided for you. Doing everything that is possible to make your husbands life easier, so that he can come home and focus on these little blessings from God. Our husbands go out every day, showing an awesome example of sacrifice and selflessness, so we too should never be prideful and self seeking.

I’ll close this post with a scripture from my favorite Proverb.

Proverbs 31: 27-30

27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.